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HOW OLD AM I ?

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H June 26th, 2010

…..so it was Dec 09 …V and I were spending the evening together and he noticed I was very quite.  When he asked me why I began to share how disappointed I had was when I realized in a few weeks I was turning 50 and had not accomplished some of the things God and I had talked about.  I know God had never let me down in 30 years so I must have missed something… He had promised me full restoration of ALL that was lost, stolen, and required of me and that I would walk in the fullness of it by my 50th!!  ( the number 50 in God is Jubilee..every 50 years He called for a year of Jubilee .. all debts were forgiven, lands and homes given back and all things restored !!)

God has done the most amazing things in our lives especially in the last year for all of us…however there were some personal things I had not seen the fullness of restoration !! But when God has been as good to you as He has been to V and I and our family, you just don’t feel right complaining about a few trivial things that weren’t there yet !!

…..much to my surprise…. V looked at me like I was crazy…. Got this smirk on his face and said your are going to be 49 in January not 50 !! WHAT…. NO…. So this man spent the next 5 minutes proving to me that I still had another whole year for the promises of God to come to pass and me to be who I needed to be by then !!!!

….. You know you are old when you can’t remember which birthday you are on !!!

….. so after V laughing his butt off at me and me trying to defend…no just didn’t even bother… call it like it is…. GOD IS NOT LATE ON HIS PROMISE…Thank God for a good man that can count and a God that will never let you down !!

Since then this year has been amazing…God has done more in the last several months than I thought possible and I still have 6 months left!!  I turn 50 in Jan !! For real !!

The reason I wanted to share this story is God will even do what you did not ask for or expect, just to bless you.

….. when I was young and in school there was a group of us that were really tight… we were in gymnastics, cheering (or pomerettes back then too) drill team, student council etc… Before V.. I was THAT GIRL !! ONE OF THOSE !!!  But when V and I got together the summer of my 8th grade, needless to say I didn’t go to my Freshman year the same way I left my 8th grade.  That summer my whole life changed.  V was just to fine to say no to.. he was the bad … tattooed…built…motorcycle riding…dope smoking…long blonde hair..blue eyed … kick your butt kind of guy !!! ( I was the over achiever.. miss everything.. had life planned out…girl who could boss guys around and get my way) But when I met V he was everything I wanted… I was drawn to his strength, I couldn’t boss him around he would put me in check !!  I loved it!

Well needless to say … by the beginning of school my freshman year I was doing drugs (not pot though… it made me tired.. so I did speed and hallucinogens … again an overachiever) I dressed like I was with V and by the time school started I was carrying a blade… and would use it if needed !!  Basically, one summer with V ….well I don’t want to say ruined me because I still use that street he put in me years ago and think it is why I was successful in business !!  SAY SOMETHING !!

My point is when school started in Sept.. not only had I not seen any of my friends..I was a different person.  When I saw them at school I could no longer identify with the conversations and activities.. everything that mattered the most to me.. gymnastics, my plan for college…everything was gone.  My new goal was be with V forever !!  Well thank God I got it right the first time.  I never recommend the when and how we got together but I do believe God brought him in my life when he did to keep me.  Even though our choice of lifestyle might not seem like it… but that position we came from has given us the ability to help so many and I could probably still kick your butt !!

Not only had I walked away from everyone… they now didn’t want me around.  I was scary and worse everyone feared V.  None of my old guy friends would even talk to me because they were afraid of V.  With good reason.. One time in front of the school and everyone, on the main corner of an extremely busy intersection…some guy made the mistake of calling me a name in front of V…. he dragged the guy out of his car..in the middle of the street.. stopping all the traffic.. and began to beat the guy until he apologized to me with the all the kids from school there !!  I think everyone got the idea not to mess with me and no one ever did after that.  I only went half of my freshman year and dropped out to be with V… I lost track of all of my friends from then on.

….as time went on and by the time we were 20 we completely gave our lives to God, and started a whole new life as a family…but your school years are very impactive in your thoughts and memories.  I loved school (until V) and all of my friends.  V and I moved away to go back to school and our journey went from there !

I have often thought of my old friends and did not know how to contact any of them,not even sure they would ever want to talk to me again.  There is no telling how I might have been to them that last year I saw them. ( I was too stoned to remember)  I never graduated high school so we weren’t on the invited list for class reunions.

So…. 35 years later…just a couple of weeks ago one of my old friends from back then tracked me down on V’s facebook ( I don’t have one of my own) I WAS ABSOLUTELY SHOCKED !! I CAN’T TELL YOU HOW AWESOME IT WAS FOR THE PART OF MY LIFE, I FELT LIKE WAS LOST FOREVER , CAME RUSHING BACK !!!  I thank God for bringing back such an important part of my life in such a cool way !!  And let’s talk about the timing… after 35 years and now, is not a coincidence.  That was one of those things you would never ask for, but God kissed me on the forehead !!  I love it when God shows off !!

… I am so glad to have that door open now for me to have my past come full circle….. SO THIS IS A SHOUT OUT TO MY OLD….(don’t lie we are all old now) FRIENDS ….DENISE AND PAM…. I AM SO GLAD YOU HUNTED ME DOWN !!

Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I will keep you all informed through the next 6 months on the rest of the promises.. not all of course i have to keep some things for myself..!!

Dr. H

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What is your measuring stick !!

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H June 25th, 2010

Walking on the beach last night with my oldest granddaughter …a whole 12 going on 20.  With the sun setting and the waves crashing at our feet …having one of our nana – granddaughter talks…( which by the way is where we talk about anything and everything… nothing is off limits !) somehow the topic turned to the quality of a person and how character is developed and decided at a very young age… how the practices and boundaries of how to make decisions and treat people should already be in full practice at her young age. (If these things are taught and walked out throughout their lives we won’t have to spend a lifetime trying to fix them)

So knowing she is very pretty and smart I was challenging her on making sure she doesn’t become one of those girls..you know… the mean girls…and how caring about people will cause you to treat people with kindness…. then out came the classic line I have heard a million times raising kids, managing people, and of course in church !!!

…..COMPARED TO ______ I AM DOING REALLY WELL !!!!

You know the  ”compared to my friends” or a specific person you know of who does not measure up !!  This is a classic move of deflection…. you know like the kid who gets caught and immediately tells on their sibling for something worse to get the attention off of their smaller infraction!!

Classic… and immature … right?
Guess what, grown people do it everyday.

The problem with this form of justification of not measuring up, is that it can change by what you are measuring by !!!

With this kind of valuing system there is no true standard.

Whatever is around that is making the person’s short comings apparent is easily remedied by removing it !!!!

This happens all the time.  You get a friend that challenges you on a behavior or an area lacking in your life and instead of being inspired to learn and change to be better… you simply replace the friend for one that not only doesn’t challenge you but makes you look better just the way you are… at work a person comes in and starts to outshine you and instead of you buckling down and learning and getting more skilled at what you do…you simply start talking bad about them to bring them to where you think others will measure below you !!

When you have to put someone else down for you to look like you measure up …. YOU ARE THE PROBLEM !!

When you have to talk or point out other peoples weaknesses to measure yourself against….YOU ARE THE PROBLEM !!

It is easy to look good when we encircle ourselves with people who’s standards and ability’s are lower than our own..however, what kind of person will that make you !!!  We should have people around us to challenge us to greater heights and show us the way to get there.  We should have people who are strong in character , who will be real friends and help keep us walking a good life.  We should want to be excellent and excel because of who we are and not because we gather losers around us just to make us look better than we are…. this is a  false sense of self esteem.

If you ever answer yourself or others by deflecting or comparing to other people… you are who I am talking about and to !!!

Let me break it down… set your own goals and reach them by improving as a person and in whatever you do !!

….whatever you put your hand to .. do with all your might !!

Take responsibility for your own character, actions and life!!

Only losers blame and compare !!

Your measuring stick should never be another person for reasons stated above… Your only true measurement is the Word of God.

It is a complete handbook on the standards and guidelines we should live by every day.

It will teach you everything you need to know to succeed as a person and whatever else you do in this life !!

It is a clear measurement for character and every value system we should have… the problem is … it is a TRUE measurement.. and people who want to live a lie will not want to use this system… it will not excuse bad character and decisions.. it will challenge them to grow, change and succeed as a person and in life!!!

I challenge you ….  change your measuring stick and see what kind of person you really are…not just appear to be !!  Compare yourself to who God said you should be…

And if you can stand up to that and hear...well done good and faithful servant enter into the joy of the Lord. Well done….

If not…. Get a new standard and learn… get into a church to be Taught…. Grow and Succeed as a person first… and prosper at whatever you put your hand to do !!!!

Blessings

Dr. H

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What about the Book of Revelations?

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H June 23rd, 2010

FROM OUR ASK THE LIFE DR. SECTION -

QUESTION:

Hello Dr. H,

I have a question about the book of Revelations in the Bible. Our Pastor and Sunday School Teacher say that the book of Revelations is not something Christians have to learn. They say that we will not be here when the rapture happens and all of that takes place. My personal opinion is that if God thought it important enough to put in the Bible, as Christians we are meant to learn it be it for us to witness to the unsaved or that it will pertain to us in our lives before we are called to heaven. I was wondering what your opinion was on the topic?

ANSWER:

Thank you for your question… I will try my best to explain in a condensed version. The reason I say that is the book of Revelations is a very complex and prophetic book in the Bible. It is the first book of the Bible I read before and after I gave my heart to God and was a big influence on why !!
Let’s take first things first.. I love the fact that people dedicate their time and energy to being part of a church and fulfilling the needs of people to be taught and trained in the houses of God.. Eph 4:11. However, I think it is beyond important that qualified people teach people !!! (A workman who need not be ashamed..RIGHTLY dividing the Word of Truth ) It is imperative that if someone who is instructing in the Word of God and the Doctrines of Christ are not solid with Scriptural backing.. THEY NEED TO ADMIT THEY JUST DON’T KNOW !! Which I might add is a rarity!! Most just dismiss stuff they don’t know or understand…ergo your question….
To begin with you are exactly right that if God thought enough to put it in the Bible for us we should have enough sense to read and study it also. Now granted there are many of the other books in the Word that should be studied first or at least at the same time.
The Word of God as a whole and especially the prophetic books, because it is a spiritual book, has many layers of meanings. There are more relevant issues in the book than I can write about without writing a book. The symbolism can be understood with in depth study of the whole Bible (THEOLOGY) this is where the Word interprets the Word!!
However to make this as short as possible…Parts of the book of Revelations has absolutely happened when it was written and used to tell and predict what is coming or has already occurred in our lifetimes. ( ex. the 7 churches..they were actual churches then and symbolize what churches will be in the end times! This is for us to watch and learn not to be these churches and what God considers an acceptable church to be..He doesn’t care about the excuses of culture and time and shows us that in this one particular point) Beyond that over the past 30 years I have preach untold amounts of messages from this book!!
Let me break it down.. There are many beliefs on the rapture (which by the way is not a Bible word it means “to be caught up”) some believe pre tribulation, mid trib and post trib. I have heard it all for years… All with some scripture and alot of conjecture. Let me just say this there is no way the Church.. The Body of Christ who are the end time believers as stated in the Word.. There is no way we will be here when the last of the Trib occurs… We would not allow it by the authority we are already given and there is much scripture to back that those who could have will not be around. There are whole belief systems that say we will be here through it all and reign when it is over.. I do not find validating balanced scripture for that… BUT for someone to say that we will not be here for any of the book of Revelations is CRAZY.. Almost everything that has been occurring in our world (events in the middle east and europe especially) in the last few years.. twenty years and even 50 years is all in there !!! Loud and Clear !!! So much has happened and very little is left to occur before the rapture!! This is truly the end of the end times !!!! Now how long will it take to fulfill none of us know.. But I will tell you that if you truly study all the world events and the Word of God….Let’s just say we should all be like John the Baptist crying in our wilderness to people around us ….Prepare ye the way of the Lord.. for His arrival is eminent and probably not generations away!! As the clock is ticking down the events or being fulfilled more and more rapidly.. this last administration is at a full run towards it…BUT ONE GREAT THING FOR SURE HAS NOT OCCURRED BEFORE WE ARE OUT OF HERE AND THIS IS WHERE WE SHOULD FOCUS!!!
“THE GREAT HARVEST OF SOULS”
Until we see this none of us are going anywhere… It is starting to occur in other countries but not yet our own..
So I don’t know if I told you exactly what you were looking for but when it comes to that book I would have to explain everything in layers for you to get the full understanding..
LET ME SAY THIS…. We had a Bible College for years and when we moved to FL we had to close it.. I PLAN ON HAVING THE BIBLE COLLEGE AVAILABLE ONLINE BY THE SPRING… WITH CLASSES IN THEOLOGY, HISTORY, SOCIOLOGY, PHYSIOLOGY AND BUSINESS. THESE ARE ALL AREAS WE HAVE OUR Phd’s and have full curriculums we have written from first year to Doctorate levels!!
Most questions are very easy to answer but the generalization about the validating need of the prophetic version of the end is just too big for this format. I do however have 8 weeks of teaching and assigned reading that I will be glad to walk you through in the spring!! I will teach what all the symbols mean and everything!!
To sum it up… I don’t like the scare tactic of the end to get to someone!! However, it is all the truth and knowing the truth gives people a real view to make decisions from… There is a real Hell to shun and a real Heaven to GAIN !
I hope this helped..
Dr. H

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Are you Problem driven or Solution driven?? It matters how it ends !!

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H June 21st, 2010

I asked a question as the title of this post !!  Are you problem driven or solution driven… I cannot tell you how many people I have asked this question to while I was trying to help them out of a situation or grow them past a mindset !! Many..Many times the first thing they say is I am solution driven that is why I am here talking to you about my problem !!

My response to that is most of them were either deceived or just plain liars !!

Somehow society has convinced themselves that if they just talk about it .. it will somehow get better !!!  Not so !!  Just like the ones who felt the need to validate their position by merely coming to talk to me , this is not a valid position!!   Now granted you can’t get help unless you seek help with someone who knows more than you and how to solve your issue !!  That is definitely the beginning of wisdom.. But it is not the totality of it !!

YOU HAVE TO TAKE IT A STEP FURTHER THAN TALKING AND WANT TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM OR ISSUE !!

I know that sounds too simple to believe but I cannot tell you how many of the people I have dealt with over the years that had no plans on working until they solved a thing !!  They simply wanted an ear to spill their hearts out to and relieve their soul !!  They talk for the sake of talking and have no goal in mind to grow past or solve the issue !!! THIS JUNK DRIVES ME CRAZY !!!  Many of you reading this today are like this and don’t understand why things don’t get better no matter how much you talk about it and even get supposed counsel for it !!!

TALKING A THING TO DEATH WILL NOT FIX IT !!!!

When you approach any situation or problem you need to have a goal in mind of solving, resolving, changing, repositioning or whatever it takes to have the needed result !! I have watched people for years rehearse the same garbage!! Over and over retelling their tells of woes !!  They sound like the old song from Hee Haw ...Woe despair and agony on me, deepest dark depression excessive misery… If it weren’t for bad luck I’d have no luck at all !!!…Blah Blah Blah..

SOME ONE NEEDS TO DO YOU A FAVOR AND TELL YOU TO SHUT UP !!

There is an absolute need to get help sometimes with something that is just to big, to close or overwhelming that you need a true friend or someone who knows more about a thing. However, you have no business vomiting on everyone about the garbage you have no intention on changing!!!  When people start that with me … my words are… I DIDN’T ASK YOU ALL THAT !!!   For those of you who have people who do this to you… You can use that line..It works.. It will shock  them and make them shut up !!

If you are the friend that allows this and enables this, you are not being a good friend …for 2 reasons… one is that you are not doing that person any favors by letting them wallow in self pity and self imposed misery.  I say self imposed because there is nothing out there that does not have a solution !!! NOTHING !!  You just haven’t found it yet !  Second is what this kind of garbage does to the hearer is devastating !! Faith comes by hearing and hearing..and so does doubt, unbelief, depression etc..  If you have a friend like this bring it to their attention … Ask them when are they going to seek an answer not just rehearse the problem and when are they actually going to make the necessary changes to bring the resolution to pass !!!  If they cannot answer that with a Right Away…... GET AWAY AND MAKE A NEW FRIEND !!!  Friends unlike family you are not stuck with !!  You need to have people in your life that help you grow and you help them grow !!  But to have supposed friendships that just suck the life out of you….is destructive to both of you and needs to either change or end!!   Tight but Right !!

So for those who have a genuine issue or situation….SEEK AN ANSWER AND YOU SHALL FIND… AND WHEN YOU FIND A SOLUTION OR THE PATH OF THE SOLUTION…. WALK IT OUT AND SUCCEED !!  THEN REHEARSE YOUR VICTORY TO EVERYONE !!  THAT WILL BUILD FAITH AND HOPE IN ALL WHO HEAR !!

But if you are the one that has no intention of changing anything and find your value in being the pitiful martyr ….. Go somewhere else and spew…..

I love to help people and have given my whole life to it… but I refuse to spend one minute wasting my time with people who waste my time !!!

Dr. H

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Honor to whom honor is due !

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H June 20th, 2010

Of course with this being Father’s Day …We first have to thank God our Father.

In the Old Testament He revealed Himself in many ways.  Beginning with Elohim (The Trinity) the Creator and progressively revealing more and more of Himself…..

But until Jesus came on the scene no one could relate to Him in the manner He desired most and had created mankind for.  The fall of man drove us away from walking in the garden in the cool of the day with Him… to His presence being to much for us to bear due to sin now apart of our lives… So… God so loved us He sent His son.. JESUS… TO RESTORE US  TO OUR FATHER!! Never again would He be a distant God , but because of the blood of Jesus we now have the ability to go to our Father !! GOD IS AMAZING AND DESERVES OUR LOVE AND RESPECT… SO ON THIS FATHER’S DAY I START WITH HIM.

But God has given me a very special gift I want to share !!  I can’t say my father … I never even knew him… But he gave me a man that would become all that the Word of God promises.  The Word teaches us to GIVE HONOR TO WHOM HONOR IS DUE.

GOD GAVE ME MY HUSBAND..HE  IS THE BEST MAN I KNOW… OR EVER HAVE KNOWN…

God  brought him in my life when I was in my teens.  He was the only man in my life and had to be what I so badly needed. (since I did not know the Lord yet)  Vernon brought to my life all the things a father should have… Love just because I was me… Made me feel safe for the first time…Made me believe in myself and encouraged me to grow into whomever I wanted to become ( and I did)… Somehow I knew this man would never leave me and he never has !!

I have watched this man who became a father at such a young age (to not one but two wonderful sons) decide what kind of man he would be, to be a great example to our sons so they could grow into strong men knowing their father believed in them and would move heaven and earth for them and he has. He decided a life of character and integrity was the most important of all and has lived it as a walking example … I saw this man hold me and love me through the loss of both of our daughters…only for God to add daughters back at our sons sides and give us the most beautiful grandchildren.   I have watched this man become a spiritual father to many, lay down his life for His God and the people God has entrusted in his hands.  I have watched him raise our natural and spiritual daughters from young girls into beautiful women,wives and mothers….. and natural and spiritual sons from young boys into great men…husbands… and fathers.  I see him pray and cry out to God to be who he needs to be so others can see OUR FATHER in him.

I LOVE THIS MAN FOR ALL HE IS AND WANT TO HONOR HIM TODAY….. SO TO THE LOVE OF MY LIFE….THE FATHER TO MY CHILDREN…. MY PARTNER IN MINISTRY AND MY BEST FRIEND

I HONOR YOU TODAY VERNON…

HAPPY FATHER’S DAY !!                  H

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The Law of the Mind

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H June 17th, 2010

We invite you to listen to Dr. Vernon’s latest …..

THE LAW OF THE MIND.

” You are either creating your future or correcting your past !!”

” If your mind doesn’t have a picture of your future it will replay the past !!”

Click here to hear  the entire message !!!

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Challenge for the day !

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H June 16th, 2010

Throughout the day… challenge yourself by asking ..Why do I do this… and why do I do it this way !!!

To get ourselves out of ruts and non effective routines question everything… If there is not a good answer….CHANGE WHAT YOU DO AND WHY !!!

You will find over a short period of time you will feel reenergized and refreshed…about what ever areas you have changed.

Life begins to have greater purpose and fulfillment…….  It will give you a renewed hope for a greater tomorrow !!

DH

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ENJOY THE JOURNEY !!!

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H June 15th, 2010

I have never understood the concept of people getting stuck in rhythms, cycles, or seasons of their lives and not doing what it takes to transition themselves to be able to move forward !!

Most people think of their lives as a single huge event – for those who have great ambition it is a straight vertical line that must be climbed and those who have far less ambition it is a horizontal straight line that has to be walked on (no real end in sight, just more of the same until you die) .  The thoughts of most of the ambitious is that there is some kind of grand prize at the end of the line !!!  And most of the others haven’t bothered to think about what’s next they are just surviving and maintaining in their today !!!   BOTH OF THESE MINDSETS ARE LIMITING ..

Listen I am a goal setting person !!  I don’t believe you will achieve anything past mediocrity and surviving without goal setting.  Great things are only achieved when you believe and do something bigger than your personal capacity !!

However,  I have learned great lessons in my years of goal setting and being driven to the prize!! ..…YOU FORGET TO ENJOY THE JOURNEY !! Our life is not and cannot be a perfect straight line of events that have all been planned and every response calculated and expected !!!  There is no such thing… if you are walking your life out like this you need to breathe !! This is boring and there is no joy in that !! One day years ago I got this Great Revelation… YOUR WHOLE LIFE IS THE JOURNEY ... you reach your goal in a moment !! We will work for years to obtain a thing as our goal.. then one day it is ours !! In one day you now have the thing desired …. That is great !!!  I believe in that !!!  But my question for you or my challenge to you is what kind of life did you live for the last few years or however long it took to get that one thing !!!

I repeat myself….. The goal setting…. The planning for the victory…… doing what it takes to obtain the prize….. obtaining the prize !!!  That is the journey right??  Ok the obtaining of the journey was the final DAY !!

What kind of life did you have on your way to the prize for the years it took to obtain… !!!! WHAT DID YOU PAY FOR IT !!!!

Too many times I have watched this driven lifestyle get to their supposed goal and find it very empty when they arrive. They have alienated spouses and children and have missed years of events and joyous times for their moment of obtaining.  I said moment of obtaining !!!  They have missed the years and times that matter the most to others, and should have to them, to only show up with a prize they are so proud of… that no one cares about but them now. That is just too DRIVEN… and all too often where a great portion of  our society exists !!!

What kind of life is it  if you don’t get to have a real life until you obtain something !!! (example) No kid cares about that huge house you were working day and night for when it was a lonely place for them to grow up in due to your lack of participation in their lives. They would have rather lived in a smaller house and had their parents raise them and be at their games !!!  Trust me in this… one day you will realize you let years get by you that you can never get back and wish you could !! Something happens when you get older, the stuff that really matters starts to become evident..  The problem is .. Now it is too late !!  Those years are gone and there is no getting them back !!!

LISTEN – HAVE AN EAR TO HEAR…….ENJOY THE JOURNEY…. KEEP YOUR GOALS IN PERSPECTIVE OF THE TOTALITY OF YOUR LIFE !!!!

LIVE FOR THE QUALITY OF LIFE NOT JUST THE QUANTITY OF STUFF !!!

For those who are the… let life happen… no plans kind of people… this is what I am … always have been … always will be… everything is just good enough… nothing great…but hey that’s OK !!  You are worse than the other !!!

I would rather have to help someone learn how to slow down a little and reposition their vision to what they might be missing… then to try to raise the dead!!!

That mindset is one of mediocrity at best and lazy !!!

We should if nothing else be becoming greater or learning from those who went before us.

V and I promised ourselves that the things we have earned to be, will be where our children get to start from in life …allowing them to build on the foundations of our lives to achieve greater victories !!! We have taught them they can be great at anything they want to become, we were and are there to remind them all the time !!  We want them to outrun us, and obtain greatness … so we made it our life goal to be an example of the things they needed to see and experience to have that mindset. No one gave it to us.. We chose one day to change our future and did!!… We were there for them… we overcame obstacles in front of them….made choices they could be proud of ….pushed ourselves past our cultural boundaries to show them how….worked hard to overcome limitations….. educated ourselves for our future.

We should not be something that our children have to overcome.. in mindsets and behaviors…. we should be something that our children can platform from to achieve greatness.

And I am talking as people… in their families ….in their careers etc…

We are responsible for what we have built and called our lives !!

If you are one of the latter types ….  Get off your lazy butt…think enough about yourself and your children to be someone that adds to this world and not just someone who exists in it.  Take some control of your future !!!  First you have to believe you can have one and then change something to get it !!

I DOUBLE DOG DARE YOU TO DREAM AGAIN !!!

There is no way you were always like this.. Something has happened in your life to make you think it has to be this way and that is not true.  It does not matter if everyone else in your family…. blah.. blah… blah.. You are not them !!  V and I are completely different than anyone in our families.  We decided we wanted to hand our children a better life than what was handed to us.  We went on a journey to find out how !!!  My God if you are this kind of person…let your journey begin with Believing In Yourself and Grow !!!

TO BOTH THE OVERACHIEVER AND THE UNDERACHIEVER !!

FIND YOUR BALANCE IN LIFE ……….ENJOY THE JOURNEY……AND WHEN YOU

ARE OLD AND YOUR LIFE IS DONE…

YOU WILL HAVE NO REGETS !!!!!!!!      Dr. H

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If Life Is Kicking Your Butt – Turn Around dummy!!

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H June 12th, 2010

If Life is kicking your butt?..It is not hard to figure out to quit giving it that target!!

With all that is going on in our country today It would be foolish to think that it would not have a rippling effect that is tearing through all areas of our lives.  Let me give you an example…when someone loses their job there is of course the immediate understanding you have to now come up with another source of income…but there also comes with that many farther reaching and more long term issues that most people don’t think about, like..  The fear of not being able to find another job.. the embarrassment of losing the one you had..the effect it might have on your whole family structure, what about your kids , the house you might lose, on and on….. All of that is real but I want to talk to you about the real problem that arises out of this hopelessness millions are feeling !!  If they have not  already lost their job, there are millions who have taken pay cuts, and many more fear it will be gone tomorrow… What if…. What if… What if… Living in fear of What if is a Living Hell !!

The true defeat here was not the loss your job or stuff…. It is when you lost your FIGHT !!! Stuff happens and will continue to if you are still breathing, you can always get more stuff ...but it is when we lose the dream we have lost the fight …and a life of mediocrity is inevitable at best !!!

Quit letting life kick your butt !!  Turn Around !!

I can hear you from here… how do I turn this around !!  Easy !!

The situation you are in right now is not where you are loosing the game.  It is in your position!!

The moment you bought into the fear ..you lost !!

You cannot properly reposition yourself for success if you allow or own defeat!!

From a position of these two mindsets ( Fear or Defeat ) there is no way you can reposition yourself for your victory !!

You need to ask yourself if this is how you want to live the rest of your life… if not.. Turn Around !! I know you are thinking right now if you could have you would have, and you have already called me a few choice names…. my response to you is.. I know from which I am speaking !!!!!

No  situation can defeat a person who has decided to win !!!

It is merely a time to reposition yourself in this new climate you now live in !!

Life is going to happen, we cannot make the entire world market submit to us personally and give us everything we deserve !!  But… we sure can reposition ourselves to make our life what we have dreamed it can be…quit waiting for the world to right itself and give you what you think it should !! ...get up and go get it !!

If you still have breath in your lungs …. It is not over… You are not dead or done !! Quit submitting to defeat and fear …. Turn around and kick their butt !!

First thing is stop the wound licking… no one who feels sorry for themselves ever win !!

Next , sit down and get a true representation on where things really are.  Not a distorted view through fear and defeat… these always exaggerate  a thing and make it appear utterly hopeless… which is a complete lie !!  This is where you might need a friend who isn’t an enabler..other wise you will both just be sitting there with tissues feeling sorry for yourself.  I truly recommend an advisor that your problem seems small to !! You can’t talk to someone about hundreds of thousands if thousands is a a lot to them.  I don’t care if you have to pay a good financial problem solver …. get a view that can see the answer and success !!!

Be willing to change !!! This is a biggie… most people just want to complain about things but are not willing to change something to build a new tomorrow!  Those people will never achieve their dream !!!  You can !!! Who cares if you have to get more education or training for a new field.  We should be learning the rest of our lives !!!

Make a Plan !! This can be an exciting time for you… being able to sit down and dream again !!!  How fun this journey will be will be decided in these moments.  Come into your plan with fresh eyes… not through the lens of your last defeat !!  Do not look back…..

Don’t let your past experience decide your next one !!! Look forward… make a plan… and walk it out !  What is your other option ??

…. there were four lepers outside the city walls.. times were REALLY bad.. the city was starving to death so there were no scraps for the lepers..(sound familiar)  It didn’t get more bleak then the life of a leper in a long season of drought !!! They had to live off of the leftovers of others.  They were literally dying of hunger when one of them (Thank God for someone who is not willing to stop) told the others lets risk everything and go to the encampment of our enemies which is right outside the city to see if we can find anything to eat !  They were literally risking their lives because first of all they were heading straight into the enemy’s camp and because of their situation would be stoned on sight to begin with … either way it looked like a lose – lose !!

NO GUTS NO GLORY !!!

Do Not Be Afraid Of New Harvest Fields !!!

… but one has some sense and declared it is better just to go try then to sit there and DIE !!  Either way the result is no worse.... but it could absolutely be an answer !!  When they got up and started walking ….

The Lord multiplied their footsteps.. and the enemy heard an army instead of four lepers... they fled their camp and not only did the lepers eat and had plenty.. they told the city and now all of them had abundance !!!

The absolute most important thing needed is God !!

Obviously we can make plans and try to live them out.  There are millions who have done that and failed.  The difference here is when you add The Lord to the mix… Success Is Inevitable !!!  … I wish above all things that you prosper and be in health, even as your soul prospers !!

He wants you blessed… but your soul needs to prosper !!  Change your mind !!

When He is in your life … I mean really …. not a visitor ! He will bring the mountains down low…the valleys up high… and make the crooked places straight…

He is a multiplying God.. He will multiply what you give Him… EVEN YOUR FOOTSTEPS OF FAITH  … Moral to the story !!

HE IS BIGGER THAN YOUR PROBLEM !!!      He is the LORD… JESUS !

… I have never seen the righteous forsaken or His seed begging for bread !!

He will make a way where there was no way… bring Him all your broken pieces and let Him begin to sculpt you new !!!

I know from which I speak  … He has been this to me for 30 years !!!

Dr. H

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Institutionalized- Are You ? Cont….

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H June 11th, 2010

As I promised … on with the topic of being institutionalized  cont……….

I covered an overview of this topic on my last blog please read it if you have not yet and then continue with this one…

We can see how this has and can effect people on the large scale, but how about you individually.  How does this kind of mindset show up and not be recognized by the person who’s life is forever altered and unknowing.

Just like V and I when we were young and saw no world outside of our own…we didn’t know we were in a self made box.. until we saw others outside of it !!!

Let me remind you of the meaning:

Definitions :

Institution = Established order, custom, permanent form of law.

Institutionalized = … to accustom a person so firmly to the care of supervised routine of and institution as to make incapable of managing a life outside of it.

Incapable = … lacking necessary ability, capacity, or power.  Unable to perform adequately.. make one incompetent !!!

Get it make one incapable..

We absolutely should be able to see after the last blog that of course  government and other powerful institutions are in fact very able to begin to take over what we should be doing for ourselves… and how having these institutions solve our problems and do our work for us is easier… But it comes with the hefty price of ..that which you tolerate will  dominate you !!! We give up a little bit of ourselves here and there and the next thing you know we forget who we really are… we have morphed into someone we no longer recognize.

As stated earlier the only one that deserves that kind of reliance …. is God Himself…!!! But He will have you change , learn, grow and succeed !!

Hard to watch but makes my point………………….

V and I had a family member that was a good looking, charming (literally charmed the pants off of almost everyone ) man whore !…. my statement was literal !!! He was raised in an environment that nothing had to be RIGHT, it only had to be GOOD ENOUGH and benefit him.

Selfish self absorbed people produce selfish self absorbed people.

When we are moved by what we want to do or do not want to do … instead of doing what is right, we have already set ourselves up to be people who live only for ourselves and self gratification.  These people are takers, not givers and their lives will reflect it !!! No good can come out of this mindset.

You need to care more about doing what is right ….CHARACTER…. then what is easy !!!!

As much of a con as this guy was… he was crazy likable and I loved him very much.  Maybe because he never did this stuff to me..  One day he came home with this beautiful bike for me.. I was in Jr. High and I had never had my own bike before ( a story in itself … some other time ) so I can’t tell you how excited and appreciative I was to this guy for that.  When I asked him where he got it for me the story changed 2 or 3 times… poker game… owed him money… and on.  I quit asking jumped on and never cared again.  He gave me something free !!!  It didn’t cost me anything and I get to keep it.  What a great feeling… right ??  I remember that he loved me very much, we would talk about all kinds of things and he would pick up the guitar and sing (very well I might add) and I just loved being around him.  He would bring home stuff all the time.. I don’t know why, he was not a giving guy but I think he loved me and loved my appreciation for him and my young adoration that he could get things that I otherwise would never be able to get on my own!!!  (sound familiar )

After a few years he moved to So Cal where he was from and things got worse for him.  He went from this kind of shuck and jive con behavior to prison within a few years.   He was housed in Old Folsom Prison.  This was not a joke.. that prison was awful.  So here was this person I loved that lived outside of every boundary  (in a negative way) never staying still too long now serving years in a hard prison.  My heart was sad but I knew his lifestyle caught up with him… so years went by….. and I mean years…. V and I were married had kids and they were in their teens… I get a call from him telling us he is getting out and could we come and pick him up.  I haven’t heard from this guy in years and only a few times since he went in but he knew we were in the ministry and asked for us to come.  Of course we went to pick him up.  It was several hours away and a long trip… I am saying that because once we pick him up it is several hours back in the car with him and all we could do is talk!!  When I saw him my heart was sad… this once pleasant faced, handsome man was now a hard faced aged person I could barely recognized !!  This is not the same guy… yes he looked similar or an older version and covered with tattoos.  (not throwing stones V and I had our share) It wasn’t his physical appearance … it was his soul..he was a broken man !!

We got him in the car and off we went…  trying to figure what to talk about… and then out of the blue he started to cry…. what !!  He never cried !!  He declared something that shocked me… I AM SCARED !! .. My mind was racing.. what of..did you make someone mad in there and they are coming after you… What, what are you scared of???? His reply blew me back….. I don’t know how to live out here !!! I have adapted to live inside but I am scared to death to live out here !!! For all these years I have been told when to eat, sleep, go to the bathroom…on and on.  I have not had one independent decision to make in years.  To survive I had to learn prison life, mindset, ways, culture and adapt my whole life to it.  I don’t know how to think any other way.  I don’t know how to make decisions for myself or the process to choose accurately !!! I DON’T THINK I CAN LIVE OUT HERE !!!

My thought was are you serious … I would be afraid of ever going back and you are afraid your not !!!

We spent the whole drive and the next couple of days talking and encouraging him about still being able to have a great future !!  But there was this resounding tone of fear.

Over the years I have seen this too many more times..But not just in those who have been in prison.. I have found those who have been incarcerated and imprisoned in their lives while living among us.  Either raised in an environment that created it or developed it through the life choices we made as we went.  Either way …. bondage is bondage !!!

He was physically out, but his mind was still in prison !!! Like so many people walking around today… so stuck in certain areas of their lives because they are in bondage in their own thoughts and behaviors !!!... He has anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor, to heal the brokenhearted, proclaim liberty to the captive, open prison doors for those who are bound…This is exactly what this is talking about.

There is a God who can deliver you out of this type of prison !!! We told him over and over…but how do you change the mind of a person in a few days when they have had years of it the other way !!!  He just couldn’t hear us.  He went back to So Cal and within a short time we heard was back in prison.  He had purposely gotten caught with a gun so he had to go back !!!  It broke my heart !!!  I began to study and understand being institutionalized.. and the devastating effects it has on participants!!  Over the years I have seen some of the most institutionalized people who have never once seen the inside of a physical prison !!  But institutionalized all the same !!! Some things are so intrinsically  woven into our thought patterns and behaviors we need someone who is not influenced by it to help point it out !!

Another way I see people deal with this is by personal destruction.. they just choose to die and not even try anymore.  There are many kinds of ways a person can die… but the walking dead is hard to watch.  I have watched people choose not to break free from things and live within the bondage of their box as it slowly chokes them to death. All hope for a great life, lost… no joy… no peace.. just breathing..not living !!.  We see a lot of this in abusive homes but some forms of abuse are never seen!

Jesus said…I have come that you might have life , and life more abundantly !!!

First I want to challenge everyone to check yourself !!  Sit down and look at your own life… are you recycling the same failures, lacks, relationships, problems, cultural limitations, family problems…

STOP THE CYCLE… You absolutely can change it all !!!  Let me introduce you to the one who can do it !! JESUS !!  … renew your mind according to the Word and it will change your life !!!  Get in a church that will teach you !!

If you are in the Jacksonville FL area … Have I got a church for you !!!  OURS!! www.dominionlifechurch.com

I am tired I started this at 4:00 am and have a huge day !!!  Blessings to all I hope this stuff is helping.

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