Many times in life when we have been through a lot we rehearse our wounds and scars over and over wondering where we went wrong for these things to happen to us… I have a different mind on that !! I don’t think you’re worth nothing til you been through something.
Coddled and protected people might appear to have something the rest of us don’t but I would not want to be a person who can only survive sucking off of what others have paid to obtain then living in the fear of losing it since you did not get it for yourself the first time.
When Vernon and I were first married we were very young. Actually we got married the day after my 16th birthday. We were so in love and got our place together … they called a cottage!!! It was a 1 car free standing garage turned into an apartment!! All we heard was we would never make it… over and over. Now, granted I don’t agree with people that young getting married but if you knew our lives you would understand why God brought Vernon in my life so young. (more about that as I write in time)
I was 16 and Vernon was almost 18 and the odds were stacked against us for sure. Especially since neither of us served God. When I left my mom’s house she sent me out with a platter for thanksgiving, a waffle iron (which by the way still makes the best waffles in the world !!) and of course my personal belongs. Which was not much !!
Within a year or two of us getting married most of our friends did also. ( Not much to do in the central valley in CA in the 70’s) The other couples had real weddings…ours was in Reno at a chapel with a guy who was 4 foot tall, had to step up 3 steps to see over the podium and spoke like he was about to bust out the tune from the Wizard of Oz … “The lollipop kids.” Truly sounded like he just sucked on helium before we started the ceremony !!! You talk about not the dream wedding !! But we loved each other and it was all OK.
The others had beautiful apartments rented for them by their parents, given cars so they wouldn’t have to worry about payments, and one couple’s parents even completely furnished their apartment!! WHAT.. I got a platter, a waffle iron and a HUG goodbye….. Vernon did have his bed though (i’m just sayin) please notice.. I brought kitchen items and Vernon brought a bed. I guess we all can see what was important. Granted the Word teaches us that we should be blessed and be able to bless our children.. it actually says have so much you leave an inheritance to your children’s children !!! That is what God wants for us. But that does not mean you hand them everything when they want it. In many ways I thank God for how it all went down… It made us who we are today!! And when others start to splinter in the tough times, and most don’t make it, Vernon and I only get closer, we always remember the worst things we made it through and if we made it through that … we can make it through anything !!
Which takes me back to my story… Within 2 years of the rest of them being married they were either split in the process of divorce or already divorced and moved on to someone else. There we stood, totally in love with 2 kids, making good money at our jobs ( and of course the drug dealing on the side helped !! WHAT..more some other time) and completely in love still. Thank God no longer in our Cottage !!
As time went on and life happened, as it does for everyone, we always pulled together to figure it out and did !! We looked at life as an adventure and as long as we had each other we could do anything… 35 years later we are still that way. When others fall apart in crisis or hard times, we grow closer and stronger !! I give credit to that kind of tenacity and strength to how it all started. No one gave us anything … and to no one do we look to solve anything now. We found in ourselves the ability to endure and overcome…only later to find the living God whom we found was with us the whole time !!!
Quit looking for the easy way in life.. once you have paid for the ability to obtain a thing you will never fear losing it. You won’t need someone to get it for you, you will know where to find it, it will be inside of you. You know how to do it again!!
God does not want us always crying out for a miracle for our lives.. we are supposed to continually walk in the blessings of God and have the creativity of our Father. When God created the earth He revealed Himself as Elohim, which is the Trinity, the God who created !! That God is our God… the creative power of God is within us if Jesus is our Lord !! So add that to our natural abilities He gave us at birth and the life experiences we go through to be able to develop into the person He needs you to be and the level of character to pull it off.
If you are whining because you don’t have something, or complaining someone won’t give you or make it happen for you…SHUT UP life is doing you a favor by allowing you to develop the ability (which only happens out of necessity) to forever be able to pull out from the depths of who you are and create again..and anew!!! Life and situations cannot steal this kind of strength and character.. others will want it but not want to pay what you paid for it !!
So many times people tell us ..I want that level of anointing in my life, I want that kind of marriage,…on and on. My response is if you do get ready to pay for it !! If you knew what it cost you might reevaluate that statement !!
Great lives are not for whiners or wusses … If you are one STOP IT… Earn your scars and get up again. I hear a lot… how many more times do I have to get up and try again…EASY… when you have it in your hand you are done !!! Not one minute before.
A loser is not someone who does not have yet… it is someone who quit trying !! Our greatness is formed in our seasons of obtaining !!
Go take your mountain.. with the Lord you are well able !!! p.s. no whining!!
Dr. H
