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Our greatness is formed in our seasons of obtaining

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H May 31st, 2010

Many times in life when we have been through a lot we rehearse our wounds and scars over and over wondering where we went wrong for these things to happen to us… I have a different mind on that !!  I don’t think you’re worth nothing til you been through something.

Coddled and protected people might appear to have something the rest of us don’t but I would not want to be a person who can only survive sucking off of what others have paid to obtain then living in the fear of losing it since you did not get it for yourself the first time.

When Vernon and I were first married we were very young.  Actually we got married the day after my 16th birthday.  We were so in love and got our place together … they called a cottage!!!  It was a 1 car free standing garage turned into an apartment!!  All we heard was we would never make it… over and over.  Now, granted I don’t agree with people that young getting married but if you knew our lives you would understand why God brought Vernon in my life so young. (more about that as I write in time)

I was 16 and Vernon was almost 18 and the odds were stacked against us for sure.  Especially since neither of us served God.  When I left my mom’s house she sent me out with a platter for thanksgiving, a waffle iron (which by the way still makes the best waffles in the world !!) and of course my personal belongs. Which was not much !!

Within a year or two of us getting married most of our friends did also. ( Not much to do in the central valley in CA in the 70’s) The other couples had real weddings…ours was in Reno at a chapel with a guy who was 4 foot tall, had to step up 3 steps to see over the podium and spoke like he was about to  bust out the tune from the Wizard of Oz … “The lollipop kids.”  Truly sounded like he just sucked on helium before we started the ceremony !!! You talk about not the dream wedding !! But we loved each other and it was all OK.

The others had beautiful apartments rented for them by their parents, given cars so they wouldn’t have to worry about payments, and one couple’s parents even completely furnished their apartment!! WHAT.. I got a platter, a waffle iron and a HUG goodbye….. Vernon did have his bed though (i’m just sayin) please notice.. I brought kitchen items and Vernon brought a bed. I guess we all can see what was important.  Granted the Word teaches us that we should be blessed and be able to bless our children.. it actually says have so much you leave an inheritance to your children’s children !!!  That is what God wants for us.  But that does not mean you hand them everything when they want it.  In many ways I thank God for how it all went down… It made us who we are today!!  And when others start to splinter in the tough times, and most don’t make it, Vernon and I only get closer, we always remember the worst things we made it through and if we made it through that … we can make it through anything !!

Which takes me back to my story… Within 2 years of the rest of them being married they were either split in the process of divorce or already divorced and moved on to someone else.  There we stood, totally in love with 2 kids, making good money at our jobs ( and of course the drug dealing on the side helped !! WHAT..more some other time) and completely in love still. Thank God no longer in our Cottage !!

As time went on and life happened, as it does for everyone, we always pulled together to figure it out and did !!  We looked at life as an adventure and as long as we had each other we could do anything… 35 years later we are still that way.  When others fall apart in crisis or hard times, we grow closer and stronger !!  I give credit to that kind of tenacity and strength to how it all started.  No one gave us anything … and to no one do we look to solve anything now.  We found in ourselves the ability to endure and overcome…only later to find the living God whom we found was with us the whole time !!!

Quit looking for the easy way in life.. once you have paid for the ability to obtain a thing you will never fear losing it. You won’t need someone to get it for you, you will know where to find it, it will be inside of you.  You know how to do it again!!

God does not want us always crying out for a miracle for our lives.. we are supposed to continually walk in the blessings of God and have the creativity of our Father. When God created the earth He revealed Himself as Elohim, which is the Trinity, the God who created !!  That God is our God… the creative power of God is within us if Jesus is our Lord !!  So add that to our natural abilities He gave us at birth and the life experiences we go through to be able to develop into the person He needs you to be and the level of character to pull it off.

If you are whining because you don’t have something, or complaining someone won’t give you or make it happen for you…SHUT UP life is doing you a favor by allowing you to develop the ability (which only happens out of necessity) to forever be able to  pull out from the depths of who you are and create again..and anew!!!  Life and situations cannot steal this kind of strength and character.. others will want it but not want to pay what you paid for it !!

So many times people tell us ..I want that level of anointing in my life, I want that kind of marriage,…on and on.  My response is if you do get ready to pay for it !!  If you knew what it cost you might reevaluate that statement !!

Great lives are not for whiners or wusses …  If you are one STOP IT… Earn your scars and get up again. I hear a lot… how many more times do I have to get up and try again…EASY… when you have it in your hand you are done !!! Not one minute before.

A loser is not someone who does not have yet… it is someone who quit trying !!  Our greatness is formed in our seasons of obtaining !!

Go take your mountain.. with the Lord you are well able !!!   p.s. no whining!!

Dr. H

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Thought of the day..

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H May 31st, 2010

… a Loser is not someone who does not have yet… it is someone who quit trying !! Our greatness is formed in our seasons of obtaining. DH

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Mental Assent -Enemy of the finish line

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H May 31st, 2010

After almost 30 years of teaching, training, instructing and counseling people of every age and on every level … the title of this segment is an absolute truth. I have personally trained people in the secular , academia and church world.
My first several years in business I found quickly that Mental Assent is an enemy  of the finish line… it will cause you not to reach your goal. It disguises itself to the speaker, comes with an agreeable expression and often with body language that says “I understand”, only to later find it went nowhere in the hearer. So as any good trainer, teacher etc., an immediate repositioning occurs as to how you reapproach what was obviously an overlooked lesson and opportunity. Only to later find that some people never really get it!
There are 2 points of thought here:
1) If you are the teacher, trainer etc… do not get discouraged by people who listen and yet never respond with action. It is the old …you can take a horse to water but you can’t make him drink adage. It does not diminish your message or your technique. It is simply what the scripture states by Jesus himself… those who have an ear to hear… hear what the spirit is saying. This is obviously not speaking of an actual ear, it is speaking of the ability to receive what is said, which is validating the truth that some will never listen or truly hear.  If some could not hear Him many will not hear you.  Just do your part and tell them what they need to give them a opportunity  to increase their life. When information is received it is incorporated into the thought process and now will allow new method to solve or redefine a thing.  It is now up to them!!
2) If you are the person who sits, listens and readily agrees yet never applies that which is spoken to you…..STOP IT, YOU ARE DRIVING THE REST OF US CRAZY!! This person will complain the rest of their life that nothing ever changes for them. Same issues year after year with no resolve!! (the only people who want to be friends with these people are usually just like them.  Those who want to go somewhere and accomplish a thing will find it very difficult to be around these kind of people for any length of time… they will  wear you out !!) Unfortunately some people find their worth in the complaint and some just don’t know how to get out of this vicious cycle. STOP!! Evaluate what you want different, find out real information on how to make the change, make a plan, AND DO IT!!  Make yourself follow through!! One small victory at a time will set a new precedent in your life, and will encourage you to tackle the next thing so your tomorrow will be greater than your yesterday. One thing I would encourage greatly is get a “real friend” who will tell you the truth and hold you accountable to the things you know you need to do!!  Someone who possesses  the ability and discipline to move forward with their goals.  I am talking about a person who will tell you when you look fat in that outfit or you are being a jerk….not the American Idol lying friend who tells someone they are great, only to later appear in the worse of the worst reels on the commercials!!! Much of a persons success in life is who they choose to hang with !!!  If they are not what you want to be like… find someone who is.  No one can help you with your character past their own.

Mental Assent agrees, admits, but never  receives and never goes past the soul into making it an experience !!! This state of mind affects both  secular and church worlds, natural and spiritual walks.  I have watched for years  the same people talking  with absolutely no results or advancement in both realms.  In the secular arena it is easier to deal with… there is little attachment to people who wound’t change … I fired them and moved on to people who could.  As a minister I always stand hoping they will finally hear.  (Although there is a point where I will just be done and move on to someone who will not waste my time… Dr. Vernon however will trouble with them for years !! …can you say Pastor?) It is so hard to see that God has given us everything to succeed in ife but unfortunately most people won’t pay a price to change a thing. God says about us  ..“ I wish above all things you prosper and be in health even as your soul prospers.” This is the desire of our Lord but it is our responsibility to renew our minds , acquire information and apply it to change our tomorrow. This kind of information only comes from the Word of God… It has all the lessons to life to succeed in all walks !!! A good pastor will know how to help you get there... Find a church who has the ability to teach you these truths and help take you into your tomorrow. Supposed success without God is empty … and when your life is done it becomes very evident the purpose you were born was never achieved.. A Life With Him !!

I pray you have an ear to hear and cause your soul to prosper…make it to the finish line !!!

Dr. H

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Strange prints?

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H May 30th, 2010

I absolutely love this , it is one of my favorites.. Of course not the norm !!

One night I had a wondrous dream,

One set of footprints there was seen,

The footprints of my precious Lord,

But mine were not along the shore,

But then some stranger prints appeared,

And I asked the Lord,” What have we here?”

Those prints are large and round and neat,

“But Lord they are to big for feet.”

My child He said in somber tones,

“For miles I carried you alone,

I challenged you to walk in faith,

But you refused and made me wait.”

“You disobeyed, you would not grow,

The walk of faith you would not know,

So I got tired, I got fed up,

And there I dropped you on your butt !”

“Because in life there comes a time,

When one must fight and one must climb,

When one must rise and take a stand,

Or leave their butt prints in the sand.”      (Unknown Writer)

Known Writer !! Says…

Matt 7:21-29 “Not everyone who says to Me, Lord,Lord, shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven.  Many will say to Me on that day , Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name? And I will declare to them, I never knew you: depart from Me you who practice lawlessness! ( or your own will, your own way, your own time)

Tight but Right !!!  Now get off your butt !!!!   Do something for Him that matters !!!   Live for HIm…….         Dr. H

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Welcome to The Life Dr.

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H May 29th, 2010

Welcome to The Life Dr.  As we begin our journey of helping people to better their lives. Our goal is to help people in their every day lives by supplying them with the advice and life coaching that they need to succeed.  In the book The Art of War it states that:

“Opportunities multiply as they are seized.”

That is the goal of The Life Dr., to help you find and seize your life opportunities and in doing so, opening more opportunities in your life you never thought possible.

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It’s not what comes at you…it’s what you do with it!

General Discussion | Posted by Dr. H May 29th, 2010

These days life is coming at us at such an aggressive pace it is almost unfathomable to believe it will ever level out. Our nation and our world in crisis! If we are not hearing about how everything will fall apart if we don’t react immediately we are hearing about how our quick reaction has now put us in a debt that our grandchildren cannot recover! Finding that all of our Congress and Senate were so driven to solve the problem they never even read the supposed solution. All of them have admitted that none of them even read what they had passed ,they all read their portion only!! With the leaders of our country screaming Sign It or it is complete devastation!! I wonder what is worse… the problem..or the supposed solution.
This reaction unfortunately is too often our position to life altering situations. Something comes at us hard and fast and instead of taking the time to stop!! We simply react! There are 2 ways to handle a hard situation. 1 and unfortunately the most popular…..REACT and the other is a Proactive solution. When we quickly react, the situation has all the control ,which causes more fear and is never a proper evaluation. One of the worst things we can do is to quickly respond without the full picture. When fear grips you panic follows and everything is distorted in panic and fear. Our emotions are raging and anytime we make a life altering decision based on emotions we have used the lowest level of evaluation to decide and are rarely ever right. Have you ever noticed that at night the fear gets the worse. I have laid there in my bed before for hours worrying about something only to find the next morning it might be bad but not that bad! The reason things don’t seem quite as bad in the morning is we have let our emotions calm down and have had time to process the full picture!! When the problem seems like there is no solution you simply have not looked at all the possibilities of resolve. The answer is out there you simply have not yet found it. You need to step back, breath, look at the full picture(good and bad)call it what it is and begin a plan to resolve. We would like to think all things can be fixed in a minute but many times it is a process.
So more later on how to walk it out but I just wanted to encourage you with this………..
IT IS NOT WHAT COMES AT YOU ……….ITS WHAT YOU DO WITH IT!!
Blessings

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